In 1974, I was not only the wife of Ronald Joseph “Butch” DeFeo Jr., but also the mother of his child. I knew his family and loved them as my own. Part of my life ended when the DeFeos were murdered and my husband was accused of committing this unspeakable crime.
After the DeFeo murders, I have had to remain silent and hidden, partly out of fear for my children and partly out of respect for those who went to such great lengths to make sure I was not unjustly implicated in the crime. The ones closest to the DeFeos suffered greatly from the tragic murders of their loved ones and from the ridicule following a cruel hoax.
Until July 2000, nothing could be said or done about all the lies told about Butch DeFeo, his family and their house; rich, powerful family members made sure of that. But now that they are dead and my children are grown, it is time to set the record straight. –Geraldine DeFeo, taken from The Night the DeFeos Died.
Lately, Amityville has been even more controversial than normal. It all stems from the fact that one woman, Geraldine DeFeo (Rullo-Romondoe were her maiden names), has revealed that she had an intimate relationship with Ronald “Butch” DeFeo prior to his involvement with the murders in Amityville.
Some may argue that Geraldine is looking for fame and fortune, but this is far from the case. Geraldine, as reported by author Ric Osuna, waived any money she could have received for her participation in Osuna’s book, The Night the DeFeos Died. In fact, Geraldine even had a chance to appear on A&E’s City Confidential series, but passed instead. And, by no means is this woman on a crusade to free her ex-husband. Of course, she would like to see the wrongs done in his case corrected, but she is the first one to admit that Butch DeFeo’s own mistreatment does not give him a license to hurt others. So, with no apparent motive to lie, it becomes increasingly difficult to cast aside her testimony.
Joel Martin, news director for WBAB Radio in Babylon, New York at the time of the 1974 murders, was the first reporter on the scene when the bodies were discovered by the police. On Saturday, June 22, 2002, Ric Osuna had the opportunity to sit down with Joel Martin at the Nautilus Diner in Massapequa for an interview for his book. Accompanying him was Geraldine DeFeo.
At first, Mr. Martin was skeptical of Geraldine’s claims regarding her marriage to Butch and her connections to the DeFeos and Brigantes. In the years proceeding the DeFeo murders, Michael Brigante Sr. contacted Joel Martin to thank him since he was one of the only reporters not to disrespect the memory of his daughter. Because he had spoken to him several times, Joel Martin was no stranger to the mannerisms, language, and nuisances displayed by Michael Brigante Sr.
Over lunch, Geraldine was slowly making progress by explaining why there was no record of her marriage to Butch DeFeo. Of course, it helped that Geraldine knew all of Brigante’s favorite terminology. The remainder of Joel Martin’s skepticism vanished after she pulled out her old photo ID.
After Martin examined the old photo identification of Geraldine, he explained, “I remember seeing her. I can’t remember what time I saw her. She looked so familiar to me. When I saw the old picture, I didn’t know that was who she was since she had been so sick [in recent years]. I looked at the picture and I said, ‘I know her.’ I did a double take, and I said, ‘I recognize you.’ She must have been in some part of the story since I don’t doubt that she was there. She seems to know a tremendous amount about the story and about the people involved. And she has got those ID cards. I do remember that face back then, but I just cannot place who she was. I am not sure what she has to gain from lying. Geraldine seems to know too much, and she has too many details. Clearly, there was some kind of relationship [between Butch and Geraldine].”
Prior to Joel Martin’s interview, on Friday, October 26, 2001, Ric Osuna had the opportunity to ask Hans Holzer specific questions about his theories and books during a tape‑recorded phone interview with him. One of the first questions Osuna asked was about Geraldine DeFeo. Not only did Holzer recall meeting Geraldine, but he also told Osuna that he knew that she and Butch had been married prior to the DeFeo murders.
Even William Davidge, Dawn DeFeo’s boyfriend at the time of the murders, informed Ric Osuna that Geraldine was involved with Butch DeFeo in 1974. Butch’s two friends, Barry Springer and Chuck Tewksbury, wrote affidavits attesting to the fact that Geraldine was Butch’s wife prior to the murders and the mother of Butch’s daughter.
Although there are plenty of first-hand accounts and documentation to show that Geraldine had a relationship with the convicted mass murderer before his family’s deaths in November 1974, a marriage certificate cannot be located. Therefore, even if it comes to pass that she only had a common-law relationship with Butch DeFeo, her relationship is no less important.
Geraldine DeFeo, who has since remarried and has a new last name, has had a few legal problems herself. She was convicted of check fraud–an incident she blames on Butch DeFeo–and penalized for harboring too many stray dogs rather than allowing them to be euthanized. Her critics argued that since she does not have a “clean” record that her testimony should be disregarded. Her supporters, of course, disagreed, citing more evidence of her authenticity than in comparison with the supernatural stories of the case.
In fact, Geraldine DeFeo refused to testify for Butch DeFeo at a 1992 appeals hearing, even though it may have helped her ex-husband. Butch wanted the courts to believe that Geraldine’s non-existent brother, Richard Romondoe, an obvious alias for DeFeo’s real murder accomplice, was present during the commission of the crime. However, Geraldine refused to lie under oath and say she had a brother.
What is worse is that at times to protect her children and her new family, Geraldine has had to deny she had a relationship with Butch DeFeo prior to the murders. Of course, Geraldine and her daughters, insist that Geraldine only denied her relationship with the DeFeos out of fear. Commenting on this, Geraldine’s daughter, Stacy, said, “The cops persecuted my mother for information. It seemed to me that they bothered her a lot.”
In fact, British criminologist Christopher Berry-Dee reported in his book, Talking with Serial Killers, that after Geraldine came forward in the early 1980s, she was “threatened, pushed to the ground, arrested, and released by the police for conspiracy in the Amityville slayings.”
For those not familiar with the case, Butch DeFeo testified at his trial that he also was beaten up during the interrogation. According to Berry-Dee, the officer responsible admitted to him that Butch DeFeo was roughed up, claiming, “Sure, of course we did a good job on him….what do you expect?”
There certainly is enough evidence that the Suffolk County Police Department–during the timeframe of the DeFeo murders–had a confession rate of over 90 percent because interrogating officers often coerced confessions or tortured suspects into admitting responsibility for crimes they did not commit. (See The Injustice that Followed section.)
The situation in Suffolk County law enforcement had deteriorated so much that former Governor Mario Cuomo requested the state’s Commission of Investigation to investigate in the mid-1980s. Three years after, the Suffolk County homicide squad was fired, resigned or forced to retire. The commission’s report certainly gave credence to Butch DeFeo’s claims that he was tortured during his interrogation.
So, why is Geraldine a threat to so many people involved in the business of Amityville?
Geraldine has exposed countless lies, including her ex-husband’s, who has since denounced her out of her refusal to remarry him a third time and her refusal to help him profit from the murders. Butch DeFeo now claims Geraldine is a fake and her daughter is not his, even despite all of his notarized affirmations that say otherwise. In fact, the examination of Geraldine’s 1989 remarriage to Butch DeFeo brings out an interesting detail–according to affidavits, Geraldine and Butch were married for the first time in the 1970s.
It was not until 1989 that a federal judge reversed a New York law prohibiting inmates with life sentences, like Butch DeFeo, the right to marry. However, the Cayuga County Sheriff’s Department issued identification dated July 16, 1985 to Geraldine in the married name of DeFeo. Obviously, the Cayuga County Sheriff’s Department is not in the habit of issuing identification in the name of just anyone. Geraldine must have had to present some convincing evidence, such as a marriage certificate, to prove she was married to Butch DeFeo prior to the law changing and therefore warranted an identification with the name “DeFeo” on it.
Author Ric Osuna, during his investigation, took the identification card along with Geraldine DeFeo to the Cayuga County Sheriff’s Department to have it authenticated. The sheriff’s clerk wrote, “The enclosed personal identification card is true and original from the Cayuga County Sheriff’s Department, which was issued on July 16, 1985.”
If readers simply discount Geraldine’s testimony, then there is more than enough evidence to support Geraldine’s assertions that Butch DeFeo had accomplices in the murder of his family, the undeniable Mob elements associated with the DeFeos, the corruption from the Suffolk County justice system in 1974 that prevented Butch DeFeo from having a fair trial, and the ghost stories surrounding the famous Amityville house were nothing but a hoax.
Ever since stepping forward, Geraldine has been ridiculed and labeled a fraud by those who feel threatened by her existence. Despite this hurdle, she has not changed her story. In fact, her daughters, two of which were old enough to remember Butch in their lives, support their mother and vouch for her authenticity.
There have been so many fanciful claims surrounding Amityville that it all comes down on what someone chooses to believe in: A demonic pig with walls oozing green slime, an angry Indian chief possessing Butch DeFeo, or a woman with little motive to lie? In the end, readers will have to decide for themselves.
The decision and order from a judge dismissing a libel lawsuit brought by Butch DeFeo against his ex-wife Geraldine. The judge found for Geraldine and dismissed the case against her. Geraldine stands behind the fact that she told author Ric Osuna the truth about her relationship with Butch DeFeo in 1974. The judge's decision strengthens this assertion. All personal information was censored upon request.
On November 30, 2000, author Ric Osuna and Geraldine DeFeo met with Butch DeFeo, who invited them both to the Green Haven Correctional facility. Below, a letter from Butch DeFeo inviting Ric Osuna, followed by an official letter from Green Haven Correctional Facility confirming the visit. After Butch DeFeo discovered that he was not going to profit from Ric Osuna's book--Osuna refused to be pressured into paying money to a convicted mass murderer--DeFeo decided to deny ever meeting with Osuna. Then, DeFeo changed his story again and decided to say he terminated the visit because Osuna wanted to discuss Amityville. In fact, DeFeo was very forthcoming with information on Amityville and the visit lasted many hours with Butch DeFeo offering his short-lived support. The last image is a copy of the Christmas card that Butch DeFeo sent Ric Osuna only days after the visit. Interestingly enough, DeFeo says "thank you" for the visit and invites Osuna back. Obviously, the visit went well. As for the other allegations DeFeo makes in the card, Osuna would later learn they were untrue.
Here is an official court document that contains the notarized signature of Ronald "Butch" DeFeo, dated October, 25 1990. Butch wanted the court to know that Geraldine's marriage to Gerald Gates was not valid and that his daughter, Stephanie, was, in fact, his because the father on the birth certificate could not have children. Today, of course, Butch DeFeo has once again changed his tune for the simple reason that Geraldine refused to go along with his scheming ways. Therefore, he has disavowed her.
A letter written by Butch DeFeo to his family's estate lawyer requesting that monies go to Geraldine and his daughter "both equally."
The letter also mentions a hit put out on DeFeo by relatives. Even the prosecutor for the DeFeo trial contended that the DeFeos were involved with criminal activities as an FBI tape was handed to the prosecution that consisted of Michael Brigante Sr. discussing a hit on Butch. Regarding the FBI tape, Prosecutor Sullivan wrote in his book that Brigante told a Mafia capo about Butch, saying, "He's a nut job...If somebody killed this kid, he's better off. You understand my language...if they kill that kid in prison...you better get it squared away." Later, the capo responded, "This kid can hang everybody...he knows what was in that house." In Talking with Serial Killers, author Christopher Berry-Dee discussed FBI agent Robert Sweeney's offer to Butch DeFeo to turn state's evidence to testify against his family's Mob connections. Butch refused, so the hit was called off.
The following audio clip is from an interview with Dr. Hans Holzer conducted on October 26, 2001 by author Ric Osuna. In this interview, Dr. Holzer confirms his knowledge of Geraldine and Butch DeFeo's relationship prior to the 1974 murders.
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A letter from parapsychologist Dr. Hans Holzer requesting to be put in contact with Butch DeFeo's wife. Dr. Holzer was very aware of Geraldine and Butch DeFeo's marriage prior to the 1974 murders. In his book, Murder in Amityville, Dr. Holzer, during his interview with Butch DeFeo on page 269, asked, "Did you on occasion say you had a wife and children?" DeFeo answered, "Maybe I did. I don't recall." Check out Dr. Holzer's audio interview with author Ric Osuna to hear Dr. Holzer confirm his knowledge that Geraldine and Butch DeFeo had a relationship prior to the 1974 murders. The black bars appear over portions of the letter to censor private information.
An affidavit from a friend of Butch DeFeo's that describes his assertion that Geraldine was married to him and was the mother of his child in 1974. All personal information has been blocked upon request. The latest version of Adobe Acrobat or Reader is required to view the transcripts.
The first letter below, with a date of 10/16/82 in Butch's handwriting, is further evidence that Geraldine knew Butch prior to 1985. All of the letters below are in Ronald "Butch" DeFeo's handwriting. The excerpts below show that Butch DeFeo never wanted to give Geraldine the divorce she requested, which resulted in her abandoning their marriage. Furthermore, the rumor that the two never had intimate relations is proved false by DeFeo's own words, in his handwriting. Finally, it is clear that DeFeo was madly in love with Geraldine and needed her in his life badly.
NOTE: The envelope below is from a recent mailing to show the public that up until recently, Butch DeFeo was calling Geraldine his wife. THE 1982 LETTER DID NOT ORIGINATE FROM THE ENVELOPE BELOW.
An interesting mother's day card dated by Butch DeFeo May 12, 1982. The handwriting is that of Butch DeFeo's. More important, Butch DeFeo wishes Geraldine DeFeo a "Happy Mother's Day." This would be an odd occurrence, if they had not had a child together in 1974. Furthermore, it helps to disprove that Butch DeFeo only knew Geraldine in 1985.
Here is one reason why Butch DeFeo has gone ahead and labeled Geraldine DeFeo a fraud: She broke his heart because she would not remarry him in 2000/2001. The first image is of a letter from Green Haven Correctional Facility regarding DeFeo's marriage request. The second image is of a letter to Geraldine from Butch discussing marriage plans.